Life is a journey, not a destination.  So are relationships.
 

    Male
    Caucasian
    Born in 1952
    Look very young for my age
    5 ft  11 in
    185 lbs
    Brown eyes
    Brown hair, short
    Mustache, comes and goes, more often goes
    Considered attractive
    Speak only english
    Non-smoker, definitely
    Limited drinking (I'm willing to drink, but seldom do)
    No other vices
 

I am:
    Divorced, for a long time now.  Been leaning a lot, in the meanwhile.
    Employed at a "day job" in corporate america as a computer geek (network administrator), which is generally disagreeable, but it pays the bills, quite nicely.
    Self employed in a side business as a nationally certified massage therapist, Reiki master and teacher, and self-published author.
    "Spiritual but not religious".
    Ordained in The Order of Melchizedek (a non-denominational lay service ministry).
    College educated with a BA in natural science, cum laud.
    Politically liberal, but not an activist.
    Generally healthy, physically and mentally.
    Still deciding what I want to be, when I grow up.

I live alone (but would like to change that).

I have sincerely believed that exercise would be good for me for all of the 30 years in which I got very little.

I eat generally well, with some leaning towards being a vegetarian.

I don't keep pets, because my schedule is often full (largely by choice, and therfore easily changed), and I have mild allergies.
 

I am:
    Quiet
    Sensitive and thoughtful ...
    ... though easily absorbed in my own thoughts
    Kind
    Practical
    Occasionally slow ...
    ... correspondingly thorough
    Capable
    Intelligent, very
    Creative
    Intuitive, very
    Insightful
    Occasionally opinionated ...
    ... never demanding
    Occasionally perfectionistic
    Generally optimistic
    Handy
    Frugal.
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My house keeping skills are moderate.  I am capable of keeping things very clean and organized, but usually don't feel a strong need to do so.

I am most definitely not a slave to fashion (LOL).

I tend to be a home body, but am more than willing to go out when invited/nudged.
 

Everyone is on their path, that leads to Divinity (possibly even in this lifetime).  Only some are conscious of this fact, and choose to further this purpose.  The passage, and the lessons participated in along the way vary immensely.

Emotional intimacy is so very important to me.  The point is to be your authentic self and allow me the same, and thereby to share that essence of ourselves with each other.   Spiritually, psychologically and emotionally, all humans are the same.  We seek the essences of our lives and selves, and try to enjoy the journey.

Communication is primarily about knowing and understanding each other, not at all about convincing, or even necessarily agreeing.  The quickest path to the death of a relationship (or worse -- a long, unhappy relationship) is to have a picture in ones head of who/what our partner is supposed to be, and then insist/demand that they "live up".   We all are who we are, and are becoming who we are meant to be -- for ourselves.   Not what our partner has in mind for us.  When people choose to be with each other, respect for this fundamental view is most important.  I believe the true purpose of a relationship is to foster spiritual growth.  All the typical reasons are illusions -- financial security, material gain, a life of comfort.  Our partner will serve us immensely as they mirror our weaknesses, fears, and failings back to us, and then stand steadfastly with is as we battle our "dragons".  Of course we return the favor.

I truly believe that everything I ask for I must offer too.  And I do, to the best of my ability.  With me it is always a "two way street".

I am responsible for myself.  I seek the deeper meaning in what is said and done, or not said and not done, and act with as much wisdom as I can muster, after consideration.

I believe we change the world, by changing ourselves, by changing out thoughts.  As Gandhi said, "We must become the change we want to see".
 

I am the father of two adult children, both now in the world on their own.  My son was born in 1977, and my daughter in 1980.  I have also seriously dated women with children, and have played the functional (though not legal) role of step-father.  Actually, "being" a step-father was easier, both to experience and do a good job, because I could stay more detached and objective, and therefor constructively engaged.

At this age, I do not want to create any more children, but am completely happy to help raise any that might be around.  I enjoy kids, and miss having them around, sometimes.

    I spend considerable time and attention on spiritual teachings, from various sources.
    Reiki shares.
    Sufi dancing.
    I prefer simple pleasures with family and close friends.
    I find most activities with the right someone are wonderful.  And almost nothing is much fun alone.
    I have a passion for music -- it is in my soul.  In addition to listening, I would like to develop my talents to sing and play, though these have been neglected for decades.
    I am slightly athletic, but not very often: walks, roller bladeing, bicycling, swimming, SCUBA.
    I like to cook, and am pretty good at it.  But I seldom do, just for one.
    Dining out, most often cheap but good, usually family owned, not much point in chains.
    Snuggling on the couch with my sweetie.
    Maybe sharing a bubble bath or shower.
    Fireplaces are a favorite.
    I enjoy being creative:  writing books, about my passions, Reiki and spirituality, or an occasional woodworking project.
    Favorite authors/movies:  Eckhart Tolle, Marianne Willimson, His Holiness the Dalai Lama, Neale Donald Walsh, Louise Hay, "What the bleep"
    Favorite music:  classic rock, light rock, Josh Groban, Deva Premal

Spiritual growth is a big part of my life.  I am a "light worker" -- a Reiki master and teacher.   Reiki is an important part of "my path".  I am ordained in The Order of Melchizedek (a non-denominational lay service ministry).

I also find wisdom in Eckhart Tolle's teachings,  Marianne Willimson's digests of "A Course in Miracles", the information provided through "Crimson Circle",  most any book by His Holiness the Dalai Lama, and the books by Neale Donald Walsh, among others.  And I am open to additional things to further myself on the path, as I find them.

I am not Christian, nor a member of any other religion.  I describe myself as "spiritual but not religious".  I find Buddhism the most appealing of the religions I know anything about (my knowledge is limited).   In general, I find that no religion appeals to me because they are too bound by belief systems -- using the mind to grasp that which vastly exceeds the minds ability to do so.  I observe that I am on an what I call an "experiece-based" path.  Through the experiences of being that occur 1) with Reiki, and 2) during the stillness when the mind is not thinking, I feel I have glimpsed and touched upon, the full truth of human life.  In any case, I have developed a deep sense that there is Divinity in everyone's lives.

I can date anyone who allows me to have my own beliefs, however similar or different these may be from their own.
 

I am looking for a long-term, committed relationship.  I don't require marriage, but am entirely open to it.

However, we have no way to know when we start if we will actually find/manifest what we have in mind.  That's why we start slow and see what comes.  It's about discovery and unfolding.  I start with no preconceived expectations.  Nor limits.  But lots of hopes, of course.

So, we start out, just spending some time, and learning about each other, and seeing how well we are together.  If it goes well, we keep going.  If not, then not.   We can see where this might go -- it is up to *us* to make all the choices along the way -- in the fullness of time.

I seek someone who:
    Seeks a deeper understanding of the nature of human life, and its relationship with the Divine.
    Understands that life is a journey, usually more enjoyable when shared.
    Is responsible for their own happiness.
    Accepts that their partner is living their own life, not the one we wish they were living.
    Self sufficient ...
    ... but capable of and wanting to connect ...
    ... can verbalize/communicate about yourself, your life, your thoughts, experiences, and feelings.
    Is intelligent, playful, strong enough to be gentle.

A non-smoker is mandatory.

I prefer slim, athletic, or average.  But, having myself gained about 15 pounds in the last 3 years, I understand that such things happen to people.

All races welcome.  Asian is a big, BIG plus, but rare here in Indiana.  The only theory I have to explain my affinity for Asians is that I must have been Asian in one or more recent past lives.  Seriously, it is the best explanation I have.

Beauty on the inside is more important than beauty on the outside, but both would be nice.  At my age, I simply have learned what I prefer.